My ‘One In a Billion’ persons

Sudha-Murty

 

When Rama was building the bridge between India and Lanka, every squirrel contributed a handful of grains of sand to help in the construction.
That too was #charity.
In my many decades of social services experience I found the largest number of donors were always from the, so called, middle class; even if their amounts were not as large as that donated by a millionaire the middle class were always the largest numbers and the most enthusiastic to help especially during natural disasters.
#SudhaMurty #InfosysFoundation
Thank you Anita Naidu for introducing me to her books.
Teacher & author Sudha Murty is my ‘one in a billion’ person I have never met; and Ritu & Priyanka are my One In A Billion persons I personally know.
#RakeshAnandBakshi
#MyOneInABillion person.

I too decided to speak up.

 

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I too decided to speak up.
 
If these guys have the courage to speak up and be identified (to prevent such crimes) so should I.
 
Yet, I feel I was blessed our male adult domestic help never hurt me nor went beyond touching me inappropriately (for the many months that he remained in our employment) when I was perhaps just 3 or 4 years young.
 
However, I did not know then that he was indulging in wrongful behavior so I never told my parents or siblings, and only when I became an adult and became aware of the sexual crimes some people commit against children I realised what had transpired in safety my own beautiful home when I was left home alone in the care of our seemingly safe male domestic help. He betrayed my mother’s trust I reaise now. (My Mom would go to Santacrus west Khar west market to shop vegetables daily as she did the shopping and cooking always herself though we had many helps always)
 
I want to remain positive, so it could have been worse ya so I am grateful that childhood experience did not scar me, it made me aware only as an adult that we guys, boys, too can be target of perverts.
 
The next time I was ‘molested’ was while travelling in a crowded local train. I was an adult by then so I was aware of what some coward stranger did to me in the crowd and I felt humiliated, but I was angry I could not identify who had touched me inappropriately in a crowd of hundreds surrounding me in a moving local train.
 
I decided to speak up now because people should know any one, male or female, rich or poor, can be a victim at any age and even boys aged 3-4 are unsafe from a perverted mind.
 
I don’t know where that man is today, I just hope he never hurt and harmed anyone in life later because my innocent 3-4 years young silence may have perhaps encouraged him to do more or worse.
 
I think no one is safe really, so we just need to make our children, BOYS too, very alert and very sensitive even from age 3-4. Especially BECAUSE a PERVERT who GETS AWAY with something like this will most probably become more ‘BOLD’ & MORE CONFIDENT to MOLEST & most probably later even RAPE. So STOP (prevent) them now.
 
#RakeshAnandBakshi🎶
 
This is a picture of me from that period, as it’s the same house we lived at in Santacruz, linking road, then. Thank God I didn’t get hurt and harmed then and was and am a happy soul.

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Chasing abandoned bicycle tyres with fallen twigs

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I too chased abandoned bicycle tyres with fallen twigs. 😊 What fun!!!

In retrospect, it was my earliest introduction to ‘running’ alongside underprivileged children my age and competing with them as an equal though I belonged to an affluent family.

Today many kids of my childhood status visit orphanages etc via school organised trips (good) to look at/see children that we affluent kids of the 70s played daily with marbles, gulli danda…

In hindsight, the ‘poorer’ kids amongst us ‘better off’ kids always competed fiercely and most often defeated us at marbles and gulli danda, perhaps it was their chance to be appreciated over us ‘affluent’ kids.
Their spirit then I salute today. I wonder how many of them rose in life to a far better financial status.

Now we have got compartmentalised, rarely do kids get to play with kids not of their parents status.

(Thank you Wasee Altaf for evoking nostalgia by this image today.)

#RakeshAnandBakshi🎶

#Synergy between different minds happens ….

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#Synergy between different minds happens when a person makes you feel ‘I hear you’, offers you his or her honesty, a better method and a better answer to your many questions on your new path together.

However, the best result requires you to commit yourself 100 percent honestly to your own cause, and submit to his or her commitment to you simultaneously.

This builds #trust, which sustains the relationship over time creating the elusive synergy we all desire in any friendship and relationship.

This applies to #Filmmaking too, building a home, #Fitness and other fields.

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